"I have discovered in life that there are ways of getting almost anywhere you want to go, if you really want to go." - Langston Hughes
Happy Friday! Today's blog post is written by Ms. B! I'm so excited to share some of the photos from our photo shoot not only because it's not often that I get to post client photos publicly but also because these were taken from my new studio! Here's hoping you get inspired by this young lady's story of determination.
Here she is, Ms. B!
Hello, everyone! Let me start by making it extremely clear that the person you see today is far from the person mentally, physically, and emotionally I was just five months ago. My fitness journey began, as do many others, after hitting rock bottom. I just moved home from Germany after gaining about 15 pounds of heavy wheat beer and pretzels, fresh out of a mentally draining relationship, and in the furthest place from worrying about my health. It was not until the morning after my 23rd birthday, where I woke up with what looked like road rash down my forehead and cheek from my drunken night out that I realized, something had to give. I needed to focus on me, and me only, and that's exactly what I did.
The definition of relentless is continuing without becoming weaker, remaining strict and determined. I could not think of a better word to define my mentality through the preparation of my first bikini competition. I put in work, day in and day out, and made zero excuses for myself. I am not going to tell you it was easy, because I would be lying. There were days when I would have to listen to my parents, friends, and coworkers, telling me that what I was doing was insane, that I was changing as a person, and that I was too obsessed. I ignored the noise, but I remained relentless.
I truly believe that if you don't have the mental capacity to be obsessed about what you're trying to get, then you are never going to get it. As the great Arnold Schwarzenegger once said, "In our society, the women who break down barriers are those who ignore limits." I continued to wake up and hit the stairmaster at 6am before work, then head back after work for more cardio and weight training. I had become obsessed, there was no denying that, but the worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I have never felt or wanted to be average. This journey has taught me to ignore the norm, ignore the criticism of society, ignore the noise, and listen to what you feel in your gut.
April 18th, my first time on the stage as a bikini competitor. The day begins at 6am, after you've woken up dehydrated from the termination of your water consumption the night before at 5pm. Your skin is the color of leather and you can barely recognize yourself, but you look the best you ever have in your entire life. Confusing concept, I know. From there you get covered in heavy stage makeup and put in your weave so you look like a real life Barbie doll that may have stayed in the tanning bed just a bit too long. When you finally see yourself all put together, with your bedazzled suit, your sparkling jewelry, your 6-inch heels and flawless make-up, it all becomes worth it. Once you arrive to the venue you realize that you were not the only one that was busting their butt the past 3-5 months. You start to compare and question yourself, but most of all you realize how much more your body can transform if you continue to stay dedicated. It is a powerful and inspiring thing to see hundreds of other woman of all ages empowering themselves. Dedicating themselves to something so selfish that many others can't understand, but regardless stopping for no one.
I have never been so nervous in my entire life than I was to get on stage that first time. I had no choice really, it was now or never. When I tell you as soon as I hit that stage it was like I was Beyonce, I am not exaggerating. Something happens on that stage, something takes over you and it is the most empowering feeling in the world. I was the sassiest I have ever been in my entire life. I was pushing my way to the front to make sure the judges saw me, when months before I would be trying to hide behind the other girls, out of hopes I would not be seen. I felt so powerful up there, so strong, and so free. I have never been comfortable being the center of attention, never mind half-naked. This experience has truly changed how I view my body, and how I carry myself. It has made me realize that no matter what you're wearing or how you look, you must act like you are Beyonce, for lack of better words. You are Queen B and you are here to own it. That goes for at work and all that you do in life. You own your stuff and you let everyone know you are a force to be reckoned with. You can be anything you want to be, and please don't ever stop until you get there.
Anything is possible!
(Hair, make-up and photos above by Effie)
I asked Ms. B to share with us all a couple of photos from the competition so here they are!
Congratulations on achieving your goals, Ms. B., and may you continue to inspire people around you! Stay sassy and happy. :)